Thursday, May 28, 2015

Urban Summer

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment"
{Ralph Waldo Emerson}

In a world full of social norms and the pressure to conform, it's difficult for one to be yourself. What does it even mean to be yourself anymore these days? How do you discover who your true self is? Being someone who prides herself on being adamant on always holding true to herself and never compromising who I am for others, I still know that I have my true self and my other self. You will inevitably always find yourself in the company of those who you just can't seem to be yourself with -- people that you know will never get you, people who you would never otherwise organically be friends with. Often times you will find yourself in the situation where you are the odd man out, but even then, I encourage you to stand firm. It's never worth it to become someone you aren't simply for recognition or acceptance. I wholly believe that each person has their own niche in life -- a niche where they will discover what they're meant to do, a niche where they will meet the people who they belong to be around, a niche that allows them to be nothing short of their true self. Being yourself is a beautiful thing, so don't let anyone rain on your parade.


Aéropostale Vest c/o {old} - similar here || Madewell Top - very similar here || Madewell Skirt - try this || Madewell Boots {on sale!} || Mansur Gavriel Bag - try this || Sunglass Warehouse Sunnies c/o 

Monday, May 25, 2015


"Live the full life of the mind, exhilarated by new ideas, intoxicated by the romance of the unusual." {Ernest Hemingway}

Just like how scents and tastes can transport you back to a different time, to a memory stored in the depths of your mind, an article of clothing brings back waves of nostalgia to me as well. It might be the reason why I hang on to so many pieces of clothing, because when I pull it back out of my closet I immediately flash back to the last time I wore it -- a beautiful day in early summer attending my cousin's graduation on the manicured lawns of Princeton University, our last family reunion celebrating my grandmother's 90th birthday, a cold windy day spent exploring NYC and seeing the city from above at the top of the Empire State building. Likewise, for the pair of pants I'm wearing in this outfit, they bring back waves of memories from my days as an intern. Despite having not worn them in so long, I could never bring myself to part from them because of all the nostalgia attached to them. I constantly joke with my family members that I'm probably some level of hoarder, but I also believe that while I may be part hoarder, I'm also part sentimentalist and sometimes it's just too hard to let those memories go.


Michael Kors Leather Jacket - very similar here || Madewell Top {in black, on sale!} - also love this || J.Crew Bottoms {old} - try this or this || Mansur Gavriel Bag - tote version here, similar style here || Zara Shoes {old} - love these and these || Sunglass Warehouse

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Full Swing

"It's beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind. Someone that wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down the walls you've built up around your mind and let them inside."

In this lifetime, most people wish to find a great and true love -- the kind of love that withstands time and space, the kind of love that is encompassing and enduring, the kind of love that is patient and everlasting. I believe that though true love may be fated, true love is also a choice; to fall in love is less of a choice than the act of remaining in love over the years. Most love begins from without -- as humans we find initial attractions through what is visible. But the most beautiful kind of love is a love that stems from within: to love someone's heart and to love someone's mind. I would very much rather be forever in love with an extraordinary minded man with a generously loving heart than a sight for sore eyes. Concordantly, I hope my mind and my heart to be the true love of someone else's life. 


Abercrombie & Fitch Denim Vest {old} - similar here and here || Aéropostale Top c/o {old} - similar here and here || Madewell Shorts {old} - love this || J.Crew Sandals {this year's here} - or try this || Jay M. Bag c/o || House of Harlow Sunnies || WearLex Necklace c/o || NARS 'Anita' Lipstick

Monday, May 18, 2015

Color Play

“We can never give up longing and wishing while we are thoroughly alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger after them.” 
{The Mill on the Floss, George Eliot}

Never forget your passions and never forget what got you started. There will never be enough time, yet there will always feel like we have infinite time. As humans we often get lost in the mundane routines of every day, the possibility of tomorrow, and the happenstance of yesterday. But a truly great life is one lived longing and pursuing those things we feel to be infinitely beautiful and good. That is a life we can look back on and say "I lived a truly wonderful life."


J.Crew Factory Shirt {old} - love this || Etcetera Trousers - similar here || Aldo Pumps {old} - similar here || Aéropostale Bag c/o {old} - similar here || Sunglass Warehouse Sunnies c/o || Necklace, Cuff, + Ring via Rocksbox -- use code ericaxoxo1 for your first month FREE

Thursday, May 14, 2015


"They were renewed by love; the heart of each held infinite sources of life for the heart of the other."{Crime and Punishment, Fyodor Dostoyevsky}

A good pair of jeans will always capture my heart. Being that I wear jeans to work 85% of the time, I've found myself constantly recycling the same few pairs despite owning a number of jeans too embarrassing to admit. Things I look for in a pair of holy grail denim: comfort, fit/cut, wash, and design. 

1) Comfort: I like me a pair of jeans with a good amount of stretch. Denim that's too stiff gets a little uncomfortable to sit for a whole day in and move around the office in. I especially hate jeans that don't have enough stretch and feel like there's negative give when you're sitting down and feel like they're digging into your knees when you bend your legs. 

2) Fit/Cut: All jeans are not made equal. We may all be wearing skinny jeans, but one pair may be infinitely more flattering than another pair. For someone my height {I'm 5'5}, I have proportionately longer legs and a slightly shorter torso. Therefore, when I put on a pair of jeans that make my legs look stockier than they really are, I know they are no bueno. A great pair of jeans will have a slimming-effect cut and also flattering in the behind ;)

3) Wash: I am very, very picky when it comes to denim washes. I prefer denim with less contrast in wash {aka, no extreme feathering, no extreme fading from dark to light, etc.}. I like jeans that are understated enough for me to wear regularly without making it blatantly obvious that I just wore these pair of jeans two days ago. Ya feel? 

4) Design: Sometimes less is more. I gravitate towards plain denim -- no pocket designs and no contrast stitching. In fact, one of my biggest pet peeves is contrast stitching on jeans. I personally feel like stitching that matches the wash of denim is so much more elevated while contrast stitching can often cheapen the look and feel of a pair of jeans. 

That being said, I love my new DSTLD denim. They are super stretchy, super flattering, a flat black wash, with an extremely simple and minimalistic design. They are the perfect everyday black jeans and what might be my favorite part is their inseam length. As I mentioned above, I have longer than average legs for someone my height, so often jeans are too short for me {there are certain brands that are also ridiculously long}. However, these jeans at the 30" inseam are literally perfection and I know they are about to become my next pair of lived-in denim. 
Another great thing about DSTLD is their affordability! Their denim is manufactured and washed in the same facilities as some major denim houses like J Brand, Citizens, and Hudson. However, because of their business model, they're able to offer their denim to you at a fraction of the price {we're talking $65 for premium denim}. I highly recommend you check out their entire collection here!


Madewell Top {on sale!} || DSTLD Denim c/o || Zara Shoes {last year} - similar here and here || Jay M. Bag c/o - similar here || Sunglass Warehouse Sunnies c/o || NARS 'Anita' Lipstick || Necklace & Ring via Rocksbox -- use code 'ericaxoxo1' for your first month FREE!